Thanks so much for those of you who shared your opinions with me. It actually turned out ok. I told David that it was something that was a huge concern to me and even though he did not share that concern he respected it. It turns out Daniel didn't want to eat ANYTHING at the barbecue anyway because there was way too much going on. With his SPD sometimes he gets overwhelmed in new situations where there are a lot of people around. He did eat some dinner when he got home. All is well. Thanks for helping me with my craziness!